Law of Attraction? What?? How??
Hello world!
I’m back after a long long hiatus of not blogging. It turns out the last several months my life was in the crapshoot and I’ve been trying my best to salvage what I have left of my sanity and move forward towards something more productive and hopefully more gratifying. Things got really annoying for me at work and I wasn’t sure how to deal with what I (and apparently a whole lot of other people) thought was a psychotic boss (see separate blog entry on that). Anyway, pain in the behind aside, I happened to be shining in all my sad glory one day and surfing the web at the same time and came across this so called phenomenon. There’s this DVD called The Secret, that I’m sure many of you have heard of. Of course, I hadn’t heard of it at all because I was wasting all my energy bitching about my boss.
Without too much detail, in case you haven’t heart of The Secret, its essentially a self-help type of movie where at a basic level you’re told to keep thinking positive and visualizing no matter what and you’ll eventually manifest what you were thinking about. Its all summed up as the “Law of Attraction”. It doesn’t seem like anything novel per se, but oh well, they had a viral ad campaign, so I guess now the secret is no longer secret. I also found some useful information on StevePavlina’s blog.
What I would like to know first of all is, does this mindset really work? Is it pragmatic or just wishful thinking and saying everything will be fine and the world will be a better place if we think it will? How many people can honestly say that it worked for them and have proof to show it did? I’m not talking about people who’re just now saying it works because they want it to work in the future. I’m asking about people it has ALREADY worked for. The reason I’m being so anal is because I want it to work for me, I truly do, because I need to get out of my current predicament (and don’t go saying I should start by forgetting about my predicament). I want to get my career in order and communicate better with my boss who, in my opinion is extremely hypocritical amongst many other things. I don’t want to switch jobs either right now because if I do, it will set me back at least 4 years to where I want to be soon.
Well, I’d love to hear from anyone for whom this “Secret” way of thinking has worked (or not) and also PRACTICAL ways of making it work.
Thanks in advance!
Dear Alvida,
I was in the same predicament as you with my job, and I used the law of attraction to help. I read everything I could get my hands on because my life, seemingly, was down the toilet…the job was getting me down so much..I am a teacher so that figures..anyway, I am trained to be a sceptic.Yes? I think the first stage of attracting what you want is…knowing what you want. If the boss, as mine was, was a pain in the proverbial, I thought about what I “really” wanted first.. the law of attraction states that any, I mean any negative self talk will cancel, or at least water down the law of attraction. You wont attract much if your whining and complaining…so you need to get clear…whatever It takes…forgive the boss – he is what he is- but it is revealing…by focusing on the boss you are attracting to yourself the same “stuff” from your boss…see? doyaget it? If you want glorius days filled with serenity and fun- focus on that…and allow that to happen… once your mind…remembering what you think will manifest into reality if you think about it long enough- is reset into a positive mode…Meaning..you have to be very vigilant…stop ANY negative stuff in its tracks… I like Michael Losier’s point. (Michael Losier- Law of Attraction) Everytime you catch yourself saying don’t, not and no you need to hit the reset button… The universe will give you everything you want but it does not distinguish between good or bad…
Anyway.. Joe Vitale is another great source… Focus on what is great…now once you are “clear”..meaning that we tend to play the same old tapes in our heads about certain thngs…you’ve gotta deprogramme that necktop computer so to speak…when clear and when you allow stuff to happen..meaning you feel you deserve it…that is it… not an ego game.. know what you want… visualise the goal… (make sure you are not at cross purposes) and things begin to happen. Coincidences, people make their way into your life.. all in beautiful synchronicity… You need for a time to observe yourself…as you were as a child…no words…what happens is that we begin to see that sometimes what we thought what we wanted is a programme – almost a robot programme of what someone else wanted..was it your mum, dad or any significant other…. I love teaching, but could not fit into the public system..why would I, I spent 30 years in the music biz in being myself…and the “system” calls upon you to be part of the institution. The clash of forces…was draining my energy.. I need to drive my own bus so to speak, or find like minded people..but I did not know that…it was a gradual shedding of layers… peel that onion..you may find its not the boss at all, what is it in you that is attracting the bosses criticism..could it be you are critical of him… what you give out…comes back. Easy… The secret is something I believe you know instinctively…but has been buried in layers and layers of mindtalk…of programming… wanting and needing approval for most of us… now if you detach from the result… and just be in the present moment… all that “stuff” disappears…
Example: Make a list of things you react to…with anger, with nasty words, gossip bla bla…(all negative right) Find out what you are angry about- The boss pisses me off because he looks over my shoulder — if this is an example then what you fear is that itself- you respond to the attachment of being approved of…get it??? If you find yourself attracting the bosses ire because you are giving it out… unconsciously… you are attracting the thing you think about most…RESET. and be honest.. what I found was I had bits of past experiences (old programmes) lurking in my head and I would react the same in each instance and get the same crappy result.. when I realised I had to clear this first BEFORE attraction could take place…Voila… you start to notice things.. everywhere is being in the right place at the right time, or the right jobs pop up out of nowhere.. I found a job almost perfectly tailored for me…it was uncanny, I went to the interview, and the principal said…this was a fantastic interview..things just mosied along…I knew i had the job before I got there, I wrote it in my calender…I detached from the result..I didn’t worry about money (because thats a fear) I didnt attach to the end result… I anticipated it…now that’s were your energy comes n…
Hi Anonymous,
Thank you very much for sharing your experiences and suggestions. They’re certainly helpful to someone as skeptical as me (being in a science field doesn’t make things easier either). I will try to take up your approach daily and see what comes of it.
Take care.
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